Honeymoon or Wedding? What would you do?

We are very much in love. We are planning on getting married. I also love my inlaws and they feel the same way towards me.

We were offered an all expense paid trip anywhere in the world if we marry within the next few months.

If we take the trip we will not be able to afford my dream wedding. If we have the wedding I want we will not be able to afford a honeymoon.

We have each been married before. (myself by a justice of the peace) And i want my dream wedding and a honeymoon, he wants the trip. He feels we can have a wedding later. I know we wont.

I know its a one or the other thing.

So what would you chose the wedding or the honeymoon?

We have considered Africa or Europe for destination places.

I have planned a 1950's style movie theater wedding theme.

Now you know all the details, help me decide.

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I would choose the honeymoon. It's a free trip, you'll probably never get that chance again. Also, with work and other factors you and your partner may not have any other time alone with each other. You can have a simple wedding for now. Plus, I've heard of some people who have done another wedding in their marriage during their anniversary. You'll have time to make the money for the wedding later. Plus, you'll have time to decide which approach to the wedding would be cheaper. Hope I helped =)

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wait... so ur gay?
I think since it means so much to you, you should have the wedding you will never ever be happy if you don't. You and and your husband can start a savings plan together and take the vacation later.
You're not going to win either way. Your inlaws put you in a very difficult position.

Why not ask them instead of an trip, if they will not pay for a cruise ship wedding, or a "weddingmoon" in the Bahamas? With this, you get both your wedding *and* honeymoon....just at the same place.

Good luck
go on the trip, the wedding last a day. There are so many hassles that go along with planning a wedding....
Just get married at a courthouse to sign the legal documents, take the ALL EXPENSES PAID TRIP ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD that YOU BOTH WANT, then come back to US and save up for a ceremony and reception that YOU want.

Everybody wins.
if its your dream to have a big wedding, go for the wedding. You can always save and go on a trip later. The wedding will be well worth it. Talk to him about his commitment problems!
I have never once regretted having a big wedding. My SIL and brother say they wish they hadn't wasted the money. Basically this is a question only you can answer. I will say I did have a traditional honeymoon too. We went to St. John. If this is a second wedding you should be old enough and in a financial position to have a wedding and a honeymoon. If you can't, you might want to seek out a financial advisor to tell you what you're doing wrong. Going to Europe at this time is pretty foolish, given the exchange rate.
If it was me I would go on the trip. There would be a lot of memories there, and experiences beyond what you can have in a banquet hall with a band and a bunch of relatives and friends.

I would not go to a "wedding" given by a couple who has been married for awhile. That is a farce. Whatever you did when you got married the initial time, that is your wedding.
First of all why do you feel if doesn't happen now that it will never happen? That would make me re-think this marriage. Secondy, you can take a trip any time. Why is a trip more important important than suppossedly life long vows? It seems that your mate is not really just excited about a wedding to begin with, rather he just likes being with you in the moment. Maybe you should ask your boyfriend why the trip is more important to him than making his vows.
I'm engaged, and with a guy who wants to give me exactly what I want. He said the other day, "A wedding is like finding your soulmate... you shouldn't have to compromise on anything. You should be able to get exactly what you're looking for". This day is so important in your life (more so than his... it's different for girls!) and I think you should do what YOU want! A dream honeymoon to me isn't as important as a dream wedding. You can always take vacations for a romantic getaway later in life. Follow your heart and you won't regret it!
Have your dream wedding, if it means so much to you, and it sounds as if it does. My fiance' and I were in a similar perdictament, but decided that we would rather have our dream wedding, spend our honeymoon in a neighboring city in a nice hotel, and save for the next year so that we can have a nice first anniversary trip. We're thinking Italy since I have friends there. Sounds like you have deeper issues than whether you should have a dream wedding or a great honeymoon...Why is he hedging on the wedding? And why do you think it won't happen later down the road? Trust and communication are key to a lasting relationship.
you should have a wedding!
Remember the most important dream is to actually be marrying the one that you love and want to spend your life with. Ceremonies are just that and just because one doesn't spend a lot of money on a wedding, doesn't mean it isn't special, afterall your real dream is coming true, marrying your beloved.

That being said, start your marriage on the right foot and with the most important principles in place. You can have both, a beautiful affordable wedding and a free once in a lifetime honeymoon that will surely give you the kind of memories that will last and last.

My compliments, Jazzy
Go for the honeymoon - you'll have a better time.. the marriage ceremony is overrated.. you can still have a nice ceremony without all the frills then leave for an awesome getway with your new hubby :)
Why not try to take your plans of a 50's themed wedding and just scale down the cost of it. It's possible to eliminate the most costly things and still have a dream wedding. Then you can still have the dream honeymoon.

If you can't compromise then opt for the one that will make you the most happy. Afterall it's your day.

Loretta
I would take the trip.

Most people don't sit around glowing about their "perfect dream wedding" years after the fact. They are just happy they got married (or unhappy depending...) Taking a trip will last longer than a day.

You could always elope during your trip too.
def honeymoon! A wedding is one day of stress when you can have a week with the person you love and be able to relax!!!
I'd have the wedding, personally. You will take other vacations, but a wedding is a one time deal. It's not the same once youre already married to do a redo.
since i was a little girl *i know its so very cliche* i dreamed of my wedding followed by a honeymoon...of course we couldn't afford both...but i would never in a million years changed that for a total expense paid trip...why dont you have them give you that money for your wedding and you start saving money for a honeymoon...we went on our honeymoon in october and got married in july...we acted like newly weds when we were at wdw and that made me experience both things even though they weren't back to back...so go ahead and have your wedding